Technology and relationships

5 Jun

A few months ago while waiting in a doctor’s office I was talking with people around me. We talked about the weather, the last vacations, restaurants we eat at, the news on the TV, and about many other things. Nobody was on the phone, or using computers. It was about having a good conversation without getting distracted by technology.imagesCAQKCRWC

Some people may lose connections with people around them. They can be wrapped up in the technology talking on their mobile phones, checking email, or watching TV. It is even more sad when parents are consumed in technology and not connecting with their children.

The ramifications of this distancing are profound. Families aren’t able to build relationships as strong as they could be nor are they able to maintain them as well. As a result, children will feel less familiarity, comfort, trust, security, and, love from their parents.

Parents influence their children’s exposure to technology. Parents determine the technology to which children are exposed and the frequency of its use. Parents buy it for them, give them permission to use it, and provide them with the time and space for its use.

Parents also model the presence and use of technology in their own life. In doing so, parents are constantly sending children messages about the role that it should play in their lives. Think about how often you watch television, play video games, surf the Internet, or check your email. You will probably see the kind of relationship that your children have or will develop with technology.

Let us continue to nurture emerging technology to further leverage all that it has to offer. At the same time, the journey of progress should be guided by us, not lead by the technology itself.

4 Responses to “Technology and relationships”

  1. Wired Mom June 6, 2013 at 6:35 pm #

    Great article! It reminded me to pay less attention to my iPhone and more to my kids!

  2. Pam Bloch June 12, 2013 at 7:35 pm #

    This is great….we forget so often when we should keep our phones off so we can focus on our children.

    • bilingualopinions June 17, 2013 at 4:02 pm #

      We got so involved with work that we forgot having fun with our kids and husbands!!

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